Discovering Myself Through My Child's Evaluation: A Journey to Self-Awareness and Autistic Traits

When I sat in the room during one of my child's behavioral evaluations, I noticed something unexpected. The same habits and quirks that were being discussed about my child felt familiar to me. I realized I also do things in a very specific order and struggle if that order is disrupted. I eat all of one food item before moving on to the next. Loud noises bother me, and I prefer soft clothing over anything scratchy. Even a facial tic I wasn’t fully aware of came up during the interview. This moment sparked a journey of self-awareness that I want to share with you.

Recognizing Traits in Myself

It’s common for parents to focus entirely on their children during evaluations, but sometimes we discover things about ourselves along the way. I noticed my own sensory sensitivities and routines mirrored what my children experience. This made me curious to learn more about whether I might be on the autism spectrum.

I took several free online autism screeners to explore this further. These tools helped me identify traits I had never fully understood before. For anyone curious, one reliable and free screener is the Autism Spectrum Quotient (AQ) test, available through reputable sites like the Autism Research Centre at the University of Cambridge (https://www.autismresearchcentre.com/arc_tests).

Deciding Whether to Pursue a Diagnosis

After taking the screeners, I made an appointment with my doctor to discuss my concerns. The doctor, along with a social worker, advised me to consider whether a formal diagnosis would benefit my life. They explained that diagnosis can be expensive and time-consuming, especially if pursued privately. I ultimately decided to not pursue a diagnosis.

Instead, I focused on understanding myself better and using what I learned to improve my daily life. I realized that knowing my own patterns and preferences helped me support my child more effectively. I also found ways to use my hyperfocus skills in my work and personal projects, turning what some might see as challenges into strengths.

Practical Strategies I Use Now

Understanding my traits has allowed me to apply strategies both for myself and my children. Here are some examples that have made a difference:

• Routine and Order: I keep a consistent daily schedule and prepare for changes in advance. This reduces stress when things don’t go as planned.

• Sensory Comfort: I choose soft fabrics for clothing and create quiet spaces at home to manage sensory overload.

• Food Preferences: I allow myself to eat foods in a preferred order, which helps me feel more in control and comfortable during meals.

• Hyperfocus: I set specific goals for projects where I can dive deep without distractions, making the most of my intense focus periods.

  
  

These small adjustments have improved my quality of life and helped me be a more patient and understanding parent.

What You Can Do If You’re Curious

If you recognize some of these traits in yourself, it’s okay to explore them. Here are some steps you can take:

• Try a free, credible autism screener online to get a sense of where you stand.

• Talk to your doctor or a mental health professional about your results and feelings.

• Consider whether a formal diagnosis would help you access support or accommodations.

• Learn about strategies that can help with sensory issues, routines, and focus.

• Connect with others who share similar experiences for advice and support.

  
  

Remember, a diagnosis is a personal decision. It’s about what helps you live your best life, not just a label.

Moving Forward with Confidence

This journey has been eye-opening. I now understand myself better and feel more equipped to support my children. Recognizing these traits in myself has brought a new level of empathy and patience. It also reminds me that we all have unique ways of experiencing the world.

If you want to talk more about this or have questions, please reach out. Sharing our stories can help us all feel less alone and more empowered.